Sometimes it's the little things that hurt the most

Sometimes, someone will say something to me, maybe without really thinking about it or whatever, and it will stay with me for an extremely long time. Whether it's something they were joking about or something they truly meant, I never forget things that people said to me that have hurt me. A friend of mine is currently in jail, and he sent me a letter recently saying that he'd rather me not write to him at all than take a long time to respond. Mind you, I'm usually very consistent with the letters I send him but I've been on vacation and getting ready for school and such so sometimes I just forget because of everything else that's been on my mind. When I read this letter, I couldn't help but become saddened. How could he tell me our of all people to stop writing him? Since he's been in jail I've written him consistently, spoken to him on the phone and even gone to visit him. I guess I shouldn't worry about it but I was genuinely hurt by the fact that he told me to just stop writing him. You know that feeling in your stomach that you get when you get really bad news or something says something awful to you? that's how I felt. I just was so shocked because at that moment when he was writing the letter and let out all of that anger, he wasn't appreciating me for all that I've one for him and how I've been there for him when his "friends" left his side completely. I mean, I know that letters are important to inmates but I can't stop my life just because of him.. All I know is that I was hurt. Obviously I'll forgive him and will still be there for him, but a part of me feels like it wouldn't be appreciated. Ugh, life.